Contrary to popular belief, jealousy starts at home. Kids who have been the only children in their families usually feel jealous when a new baby comes along. This is because they see the new member as a threat – that all the attention and privileges they enjoy will soon be gone as they’re no longer the youngest.
Although jealousy between siblings is normal, it must not be left unresolved because it can result to friction, verbal abuse and physical violence. You can always help your child to respond appropriately to the calls of jealousy. The following tips will show you how.
Prepare your child – Not all surprises are welcomed by children with open arms. And having a baby brother or sister is one of these surprises. Inform your child about the coming of a new family member. Instead of teasing your child about the changes or the privileges she might lose, encourage her to be a caring, loving and responsible older siblings. Tell her the joys of having siblings based on your personal experience.
Don’t take sides – Once your newborn has grown into a kid, don’t take her side all the time when she gets into a fight with her older sibling. Hear out both sides and be ready to discipline both of them appropriately to prevent jealousy from brewing.
Initiate bonding – Create an opportunity for the siblings to bond often. They are less likely to fight if they enjoy each other’ company. Moreover, this will help them love and care for each other without having you remind them again and again.
I think kids need supervision while brushing their teeth. Not only do they need help reaching all the teeth, they also need an adult to make sure they don’t decorate the walls with toothpaste!
Here are a few ideas to help make teeth brushing time a better experience.
Brush their teeth during their bath. My little kids take a bath and then rinse off with a shower. During the rinsing time they get a toothbrush (with toothpaste already applied) and they brush while rinsing. They spit into the drain and there is no mess! This tip works really well with young kids who can’t reach the bathroom counter.
Keep the toothbrushes in the kitchen. I have a friend who keeps the toothbrushes in the kitchen drawer and the kids brush their teeth in the kitchen sink. Since kitchens are bigger than bathrooms it is easier for mom to help the kids brush at the kitchen sink and for some reason there seems to be less mess.
If you are concerned about kids spitting in the kitchen sink, give the sink a quick cleaning after they are finished brushing. Your sink will always be clean!
Put on some music! A dentist friend of mine recommend putting on some music and encouraging your children to brush their teeth for one entire song. Brushing to music will help the time go by quicker.
Parents often resort to giving kids a game to play on their smartphones and tablets whenever they cry. Parents also give kids these gadgets to keep them preoccupied especially when chores are piling and they need their youngsters to sit still so they can accomplish a lot in no time. Well, doing so can both be advantageous and disadvantageous to both parents and the kids. Thus, parameters must be set in order for both to get the best out of these gadgets.
Wait – Wait until your kid goes to school before giving them these gadgets. Oftentimes, parents allow toddlers to be dependent on it very early. Toddlers may find it easy to recognize which icons to touch to get the game starting but this doesn’t equate with their readiness to use computers for that matter. More so, toddlers need to interact with their environment for the development of their well-being.
Supervise – Young children must not be left alone when playing with these gadgets. Apart from being to filter what they’re up to, supervising your kids’ usage of these gadgets will help improve their comprehension skills. This is because you are able to guide them, for example, in doing the right moves in order to complete a game level.
Go educational – If you are going to pick games and applications, ensure that they are educational. Your kids’ minds are like a sponge. If you want their young minds to be shaped at their present, take advantage of what educational stuff can provide. You might be surprised at how advanced his learnings could be.
Chores are good for kids. Most pediatric and psychiatric specialists for kids can attest to that. However, you need to assign age-appropriate chores to your kids for this statement to be true in your kids’ lives. If otherwise, you are just brewing a perfect concoction of danger and frustration.
Giving kids chores can contribute big time to their well-being. When kids are able to do and complete a task, their self-esteem is built or taken to a higher level. This is because they see themselves as equally capable of accomplishing chores just like adults.
It is important that you explain why your kids need to do chores besides instructing them how each chore must be done. By so doing, you are instilling among them sense of accountability. Accountability prods them to finish chores in their suggested time frame and in a satisfactory manner. You will surprised that your kids will be more responsible at home and at school without having to expect rewards for tasks completed.
As kids continue to receive chores and accomplish them, they learn how to be organized with their own stuff and other things. They think of ways to keep things neat in order to save energy and time – allowing them to have extra time to play.
It is not only us adults who get so stressed out during the holidays. Kids get stressed out too. While our holiday stress may come from the things we are worried about, kids’ holiday stress may come from the excitement and joy that they feel during this time of the year.
Holidays definitely come with celebrations left and right. Wherever you might want to bring the kids, ensure a place for them to rest or sleep during their downtime. Kids tend to be irritable when they are tired and confused of what is happening around. Have a playlist of relaxing classical music which they can listen too. This can mellow down any negative feeling inside them.
Be mindful about assigning age appropriate tasks and games to your children. Do you think they can help serve the guest or set the table? Once you have ask them to do something, leave the task outcome untouched even when it’s not perfectly done. This gives children a sense of fulfillment. They could feel stressed out if you fail to accept what they can offer you. Lastly, teach them how to breathe in and breathe out to stay calm. Teach them to say calming and positive words like “I’m happy” etc.
There is no perfect way to discipline your child. Instilling proper discipline in children is one of the trickiest tasks a parent can encounter. As a parent, I find it very hard to handle my children’s behaviour when they become far too difficult. How do you handle tantrums? What must one do when your kids simply won’t listen? To spank or not to spank? These are a few questions that a parent asks when it comes to disciplining one’s children.
Any loving parent would prefer to not spank his son or daughter. When things get out of hand and a parent resolves to spanking, he will most likely regret it afterwards. We have different parenting styles, but generally no caring, devoted parent would want to hurt his or her child. You can be an authoritative parent who outlines your expectations to your kids while still being affectionate towards them, an authoritarian, who is strict with discipline but low on affection, or a permissive parent, who is very affectionate, gives in to your children’s every whim and hardly gives out any form of discipline. Whether you’re authoritative, authoritarian, or permissive, a few helpful parenting tips here and there would be of good use.
I guess, I am not alone in confessing that toothbrush time is really difficult to implement no matter how you, as a parent, are motivated enough to ensure healthy gums and teeth for your kiddos.
I have an eight-year-old boy who has already lost two of his permanent molars to eating hard candies and chewing gums. Besides his love for candies and gums, he hates the taste of toothpaste and the prickly feeling tooth brushing gives. In fact, I saw him one time washing the toothpaste off his brush to male be believe that he’s done cleaning his teeth even though he wasn’t. My constant reminder on him to toothbrush often end up with arguments and so I decided to look for another way to get him brushing his teeth for real.
As I browsed the web, I stumbled upon the phrase ‘like parent, like child’. It instantly shares the insight that whatever the parent does the child does and in the perspective of dental health, this phrase was dubbed as co-brushing.
Co-brushing is an ideal practice that can enforce and reenforce brushing among kids with ages one to seven years old. Oh well, my boy is already past seven but I thought I would not lose anything by trying it. I had to discipline myself to wait for him to finish his meals so we could brush and floss together. At first he was resistant and I was impatient but in the succeeding months we both got used to it. Also, I took this opportunity to teach him the right way to brush and floss.
I am also keen about him getting off the habit of eating sweets and drinking sodas. And so, I myself had to refrain from ingesting them. As the saying goes, ‘practice what you preach’. Take a look at this wonderful infographic I found. I thought, all the reminders I ought to tell my son are summed up here.