How to Encourage Other Moms

Being a mom is hard work, isn’t it? There are so many responsibilities, choices, and expectations. Something that has really hit home with me over the past few years is the importance of having friends who are encouraging, uplifting, and supportive — and being that friend in return.

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As moms, we need to see each other as colleagues and as allies in parenthood. If we operate on little islands and don’t stop to help each other, we are missing out. Motherhood is a common bond we share, and it’s something to take seriously. Here are 10 things to consider when it comes to encouraging other moms — and guarding ourselves against discouragement.

None of us really know what we’re doing. Motherhood isn’t something we learn the first time around and then practice perfectly from then on. We are all trying our best, we all love our kids, and we all have different strengths. Just because someone looks like they have it all together does not mean that they actually do. Don’t worry if another mom seems like she knows exactly what she’s doing — she may actually be looking at you and feeling the same insecurity about her own self.

1)Do not compare yourself to another mom. Be the best mom you can be with your children, and strive for your own personal best. It’s perfectly reasonable to get ideas and advice from other moms, but do not compare yourself to anyone else. Just because they rented a moon bounce and hosted a huge birthday party for their daughter doesn’t mean you’re “not as good of a mom” because you simply had pizza with the grandparents.

2) If things are going well for you but another mom is struggling, don’t flaunt it. Some kids are late walkers, late talkers, or have behavioral issues. If you happen to be a mom who is having an easy time at the moment, just consider who you share your success stories with. If your two year old is saying her ABC’s and your friend is struggling because her two year old is barely talking, save your good news for the grandparents.

3) Don’t try to impress other moms. Waking up early to make homemade muffins and clean your house from top to bottom isn’t going to do anyone any favors. Sure, tidy up and set out a snack, but consider what you are doing and why you are doing it. Be the best mom you can to your children, but don’t worry about looking like the best mom to your friends.

4) When you see another mom who needs help, HELP THEM. There is always that one mom in the grocery store who is having a hard time. Offer to help her put her groceries on the conveyor belt or into her trunk if she has a crying baby or is having a hard time with a toddler. Treat another mom like you would if you saw your friend at the grocery store, and offer to lend a hand. Even if they say no thanks, your offer may have made a difference in their day.

5) Don’t judge other moms. Fight the urge to say in your mind (“I would never let my kid scream like that!). Instead, try a few encouraging words. Even stopping to say, “Oh, hang in there — toddlers are tough! I have one at home,” will make a difference to her.

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Five Creative Ways to Remember Your Wedding Day

Remembering your wedding day is one of the best things you can do to stay positive about your married life, if you’re going through tough times. Reminiscing about your promise of happily ever after and the special moments you shared with family and friends on that day will keep the promise alive of growing old with your partner. Therefore, you should consider creating keepsakes of this important celebration in your life which will help you recollect more memories to hold on to. Here are some tricks which you might want to include in your wedding memories preservation plan.

1. Frame your written vows. This is a great way to remind yourself and your partner of your promise of forever to each other. You can also frame a couple of your love letters, lyrics of your favorite song, your wedding invitation or the poem your maid of honor recited at the reception. You can hang this next to your wedding portrait, in your bedroom or on the wall beside the nook where you have coffee together.

2. Dry your bouquet. Hang your bouquet in the air to let it dry. If the petals and leaves start to fall off, consider arranging them in a creative form. You can also hire a professional to preserve your bouquet and have it stored in a dome or frame.

3. Freeze a piece of your wedding cake. Some couples freeze a slice of their wedding cake which they’ll eat on their first anniversary. If you’re keen to do this, choose a cake that freezes well and stays tasty after being frozen.

4. Keep your wine bottles. Bring home a couple of empty wine bottles from the reception. Ask a few of your guests to write their messages and wishes for you on small pieces of paper and drop them into the wine bottles. You can also preserve the wine you had during the cake cutting ceremony. Make sure to store it in a cool and dry place so you can enjoy its perfect taste at your anniversary.

5. Display candid wedding photos. Candid photos or stolen shots will help you remember the unguarded moments you had and the emotions you felt on your special day. Choose your favorite pictures and print them in different sizes so you can hang them appropriately in various parts of your house.

Are you looking for other ways to preserve your wedding memories? Read this detailed infographic from Affordable Preservation for details.

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Quick Tips on Purchasing Baby Products

Different baby products are available in mall, in supermarkets and even online today. They come in varied colors, design, sizes and prices. The greatest challenge for us moms would be choosing the most durable and safest products for our babies’ use.

Most of us fall into the trap of rooting for the cutest items we see in the store. This is especially true when we are choosing one as birthday, christening or holiday gift. There are certain things which we must keep in mind regarding this.babyproducts-big

First and foremost, never decide to buy an item based on its appearance. You must care to hold it and scrutinize every part of it. Are you buying feeding bottles? Visit specialty stores that sell the best baby products if possible. In here, you can ask for an actual demonstration of the performance of the item you are eyeing on. Perhaps, you are purchasing them from the department store. Ask permission from the sales agent for you to feel the feeding bottles in your hand and inspect its entirety.

Moving forward, read the product labels or ask about the materials which were used for the manufacture of the baby items you have at hand. They have to be safe for our little ones. If you are clueless about the reputation of a brand that you are considering, you can check its track record through useful websites which advocate against dangers among kids. Better yet, take time to read baby product reviews before going to the nearest store for your purchase. Most of the time, these reviews recommend items that have passed the standards of organizations conducting tests and awarding seals of approval.

It is also ideal that you have at least three brands in mind to choose from. This will enable you to compare and contrast the features and prizes of each item. Thus, you can choose the best one not only according to your needs but also to the budget that you have at hand. Doesn’t it sound like great savings without sacrificing quality? Do not go for the first product that will come your way. There might be more advantages waiting for you from the other items available.

Lastly, you must be aware of recalls so that you can purchase only the best baby products that your child needs. Certain websites provide free recall database which adults can use for reference. These listings can give you the exact name and description of the items recalled and the date and place they were on sale. They also show the cause of the recall and the solutions that the manufacturers are taking to solve the issue.

Insights On Having A Productive Day Ahead

Getting up in the morning and conditioning yourself to be more productive than yesterday is really challenging. This is why you must be decided and determined to be busy and  productive than inactive and lazy.

Start the day by focusing your mind on achieving goals or tasks you need accomplished with in the day. Before going to sleep, get your organizer or gadget and make a list of your plans for tomorrow. Set at least three to five goals which you can realistically achieve within the day.

Next, budget your time. This includes waking up on a specified time and strictly working on certain hours. Assign number of hours or minutes to each of the tasks in your list. This will keep your mind and body working every second of the day. As your time is well-spent, you can accomplish a lot of things. You might be surprised that with the focus and energy you have got, you could be starting today on the goals or tasks you have set for tomorrow.

Lastly, remove any form of distraction that get your focus and time out of the  task you need to work on. Oftentimes, gadgets and social media can get most of us distracted and unproductive. If you would not be needing the internet for your work, turn your wifi off so you can work without delays.

5 Tips To Keep Your Home Safe While On A Vacation

It is the time of the year again when your whole family decides to go on a trip and be on a relaxation mode for some days. Because nobody will be left behind to watch over the house, it is best for you to observe certain measures that ward evil doers off your property and belongings. Take a look at the following tips on making your home more secure while your family is on a vacation.

1)  Request for help – Find a friend or relative who can guard and stay in your house for the entirety of your vacation. Be sure that he or she is someone you can trust. If you’re not comfortable with this idea, have at least three dogs guarding your house from the outside. Requesting help from your local police is advisable too.

2) Refrain from spreading the news about your vacation online – The rise of different photo sharing sites and social media platforms caused many people to be addicted in giving minute by minute update of their whereabouts. Doing this makes it easy for thieves to track your every move. Once they learn that you are already out of the house, they can quickly perform their evil plans.

3) Momentarily stop your mails and newspaper delivery – Local post offices usually hold mails for people who will be leaving their residences for three days or more. Cut-off the newspaper delivery too. When newspapers pile up by entrance door or lawn, people will suspect right away that there are no one in the house to pick them up.

4) Lock all points of entrance – These are not only your back and entrance doors. Windows and other openings to your house are included here. Before you leave, have all family members check if all your passage ways are locked up. Other things which you might need to lock up are gas and water pipes.

5) Install security devices – Obviously, these are the likes of CCTVs which you can connect to your laptop or mobile devices with the aid of the internet. If this is quite costly for you, purchase locks or lock systems which can keep your property fastened until you get home from vacation.

There’s nothing like home…

Home

Nothing beats having your own home sweet home. And it doesn’t matter if it’s a mansion or a small apartment, what is important is you have your own space you call your very own.

I’ve started this blog to share with you everything I find interesting and which I think would be a great help in making our homes the greatest places on Earth.

Just wait for my next posts! 🙂